Beating Poor Self Esteem ?Does poor self esteem change to high self esteem with dieting?
Don't be fooled - dropping a few dress sizes isn't what raises our self esteem. It's the story we tell ourselves about shedding the pounds that changes how we feel about ourselves. It's the same thing with all beauty products. It's not the application of cosmetics that changes anything - it's what we then tell ourselves about the image we now see that makes the difference.
So you can ditch diets as the method of raising esteem. There are better ways. High self-esteem consWhat are we really buying when we buy those diets? We're not just buying that they'll make us thin. What not even always buying that we'll look so much better!No, ultimately, what we're after is something much more valuable than that. We're banking on these pills or diet products to dissolve all our low self esteem issues. Just look at those 'before and after' weight loss pictures. In the before picture they look grey and unsmiling, their lives look pretty colourless and bland. They look sad and lacking in esteem. But viola! After they've shed pounds and dropped a dress size or two, suddenly life becomes so much rosier. Gone is their low self esteem. Now they beam out at the camera - confidence and high self esteem have become their middle names. THAT's what we're really buying when we buy weight loss products of follow weight loss tips. Low body confidence fixesYou can have high self esteem regardless of your body size or shape. Now admittedly when you live in a Western culture that isn't always easy.But many cultures around the world like the Polynesians and rural African women have high self esteem because they carry extra pounds. And even in Westernized countries like the USA, various cultural groups live without low self esteem caused by hating their bodies. While they are exposed to the same skinny model ideal via the media their cultural heritage allows them to live more comfortably with extra pounds. But this just goes to show, it's not the weight itself that changes our self-esteem, it's the judgment we hold about it. So if we refused to judge extra weight as bad - it couldn't lead to poor self esteem... or the health-eroding neuropeptides that accompany a harsh body critic. And if you're thinking carrying a large body is a bad thing, from a health point of view, then click here and take a peek at some of the obesity research from around the globe. Poor self esteem is caused by surface truths
In 'The Joy-Filled Body, ' I point out that you get deep essential truths (we are all born equal and special) that are enduring and empowering and don’t change historically, or from one culture to another. Then we get surface ego beliefs (the shape of your body is what makes you special). The latter are never stable; they’re the ones that create self-doubt and poor self esteem. Challenging surface beliefs is absolutely central to escaping the diet mentality. Instead of lusting after the glamorous lifestyles of pop divas and movie stars, I’ve started watching out for stories about their lives. What I’ve discovered is that, despite having bodies most of us would kill for and being unbelievably wealthy, many live crazy, unhappy lives dripping with poor self esteem. I no longer believe that when I’m outwardly gorgeous, the world will be my oyster. I’ve taken a lot of pressure off myself to become something I never can and THAT's done wonders to dissovle poor self esteem. You already are all that you ever need to be, and you don’t need to become ‘anything’ or ‘anybody’ different in order to have high self esteem. Honestly, you don't! Realising this will go much further when it comes to (click here for practical ways to build your self-esteem) building an enduring healthy self-esteem than losing weight. Comparison creates poor self esteem
Just watch how we go about creating low self esteem. We flip through those glossy glamour magazines, subconsciously comparing ourselves to the images we see there. But in reality, stroll around the mall or go to the beach and take a long hard look. Are those 'perfect cellulite-free' bodies really the bodies that inhabit everyday planet earth? Looking back at the bodies from other eras very clearly illustrates why todays standards of beauty aren’t deep essential truths. Look back at pictures of other periods in history - they look nothing like the clothes-hanger-thin models featured in today's magazines. What comparison we make also determines whether we have high or poor self esteem. And if you don't believe me experiment a bit.  Click to join Mindoverfatter If you find this website useful, feel free to recommend it to a friend. We have many requests to link to our website - and we're always thrilled to know that you find our information valuable - please feel free to copy the text below and paste it on your website should you think your visitors would gain from the information at Ditch-diets and live light!
Return from Poor Self Esteem to Diet Myths
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